We are a couple of weeks into 2018, our motivation is high, and we are ready to stay committed to change and bettering our lives. The big question is how do we keep up this momentum two, three, even six months from now?
One thing I know for sure is that life gives us moments of great joy where things feel easy and effortless, and then times of hardship, where we feel paralyzed and full of despair. Unfortunately, we cannot know and appreciate one without the other. Yes, we strive to have more highs then lows. But what if we could see that our darkest moments, those moments where you find yourself unable to get out of bed, pleading to God for help, and eating pints of ice cream to numb the pain, are actually tremendous gifts and our greatest opportunities for growth?
2017 presented me with an entire year of daily desperado moments. After about four months of initial shock, I knew the only way out was to start seeking out the blessings that this situation was gifting me. If you have endured any form of loss in your life, you know that when a new situation shows up in your life resembling loss of any kind, the trigger bells go off in your mind, adding another layer onto the unhealed parts of your soul. What seems like no big deal to another person, can feel like the world is ending for you. I refer to it as “trauma magnified.”
We are given these moments in time, where we are beaten down and think we do not have the strength to keep on going. And then from the bottom of our emotional river, we emerge from the mud as a lotus flower. Blooming open to the heavens, more beautiful, resilient, and grateful to be a human being than we ever were before. It never ceases to amaze me how much resiliency rests within us.
One of the most profound experiences when someone you deeply love has died or you have been diagnosed with a terminal illness, is in those weeks or months following, nothing else matters. And that not caring eventually creates a space inside of you that chooses to create the life that aligns more with who you are becoming, and pushes you to do things that before the loss, you would have made excuses not to do. You may have cared before what others think, or felt afraid of failing or missing out if you began doing the things that you were brought into this lifetime to accomplish. Your low point has now become the turning point, and moving you in the direction of your greatness.
Use your low points. Embrace them and what they are there to teach you. Use them as fuel for the fire to light up your life. I tell my students and clients all of the time, that it is good when you have a day that you forget to meditate, or that you eat poorly, or you are not taking care of yourself. Then you have a gauge to work off of, and to see that when I do the work I feel good, and when I don’t, I feel bad. The barometer of your feelings is the fuel you need to make different choices. And every time you feel you are failing, just make the choice to be and do your best, and try again.
In the coming weeks and months, if you find yourself weaning off of resolutions, re-commit. You have the permission to make new ones, and do not have to wait another year to do so. We are a new person every day. Honor where you are at in the moment, and check in every day to see what choices you need to make so your life is a peaceful and fulfilled one.